Maybe there is another form of relation to the world

Sharyn Alfonsi: If I I went to the Mercedes dealership and I said, “I would like that car. And they said, “OK, you’re gonna have to wait five years,” they’d be out of business. Pierre-Alexis Dumas: But you’re talking about industrial production. You’re applying your thinking structure of industrial production to craft. We’re about craft. […]

If people are not listening to you, stop talking to them.

Consistently mistaking confidence for competence

There’s research on what’s called the Babble Effect, which is the idea that the more you talk in a meeting, the more likely you are to get selected as the leader of a team. So we reward people who dominate the conversation, even though they are not actually better at leadership. Often they’re worse, because they fail to include and learn from the voices around them in the room. They’re so obsessed with being the smartest person in the room that they fail to make the room smarter. And I think what happens there is we’re consistently mistaking their confidence for competence.

Adam Grant

Choose carefully

Goals Traps Goals Bigger house Autonomy Fast car Health Followers Friends That job title A job with meaning Earning more than… Contentment

Time and New Things

You’re a time billionaire

A million seconds is 11 days. A billion seconds is slightly over 31 years…I feel like in our culture, we’re so obsessed, as a culture, with money. And we deify dollar billionaires in a way…And I was thinking of time billionaires that when I see, sometimes, 20-year-olds—the thought I had was they probably have two […]

Hustle Pornstars

I think the hustle porn stars (…) have convinced the whole world that success in the digital world is about screaming look at me, look at me, look at me. They’ve perpetuated this thing we call the me disease as though people give a shit about what you had for breakfast on Instagram. People care […]

Koi No Yokan

There’s a Japanese phrase that I like: koi no yokan. It doesn’t mean love at first sight. It’s closer to love at second sight. It’s the feeling when you meet someone that you’re going to fall in love with them. Maybe you don’t love them right away, but it’s inevitable that you will.
Nicola Yoon

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Relative deprivation, the belief that your situation is worse than others, or that others are doing better than you, can trigger anger and resentment, and is associated with risk taking behaviour like gambling. Having hope for the future is protective against this. Read More

The Internet.

It’s an interesting thing; The internet isn’t about having a good time, it’s about showing people you’re having a good time. When you gout to bars and clubs, nobody’s actually dancing or enjoying themselves; They’re all taking photos of themselves at the bar so that later on they can say, “I was there, wasn’t it great?” It’s crazy.
Daniel Radcliffe

The view that humans are morally more important than animals appears later and may be socially acquired.

Is the tendency to morally prioritize humans over animals weaker in children than adults? In two preregistered studies (total N = 622), 5- to 9-year-old children and adults were presented with moral dilemmas pitting varying numbers of humans against varying numbers of either dogs or pigs and were asked who should be saved. In both […]

Killdozer; let me tell you a tale.

On a futon at 30?

Realize that sleeping on a futon when you’re 30 is not the worst thing. You know what’s worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you’re not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You’ll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There’s no risk when you go after a dream. There’s a tremendous amount to risk to playing it safe.
Bill Burr

Pink Steering Wheel

A group of automobile engineers were sick of the upper management making major changes to their cars after they would put their heart and souls into making these cars. So they came up with making a bright pink steering wheel idea and submitted the car to management. Management obviously said they must remove the pink […]

Self is a Victim

A new personality construct has been defined that describes people who persistently see themselves as victims within interpersonal conflicts. The research was published in Personality and Individual Differences. Study authors Rahav Gabay and team describe how the social world is satiated with interpersonal transgressions that are often unpleasant and seemingly unwarranted, such as being interrupted […]

Buy a Tesla?

Confidential data from maritime industry insiders based on engine size and the quality of fuel typically used by ships and cars shows that just 15 of the world’s biggest ships may now emit as much pollution as all the world’s 760m cars. Low-grade ship bunker fuel (or fuel oil) has up to 2,000 times the […]

The Law of Triviality

People likely spend too little time on big decisions (like buying a house), and too much time on small decisions (like buying a pen). Big decisions require more time to be considered and there is more chance to stop early by mistake. Read More

Play To Your Strengths.

Primal Instinct

Did you know that Chimps will sometimes beat their resource-hoarding overlords to death in public and then eat the corpse in defiance? Read More

Bring Your Mind Inside Your Heart and the World Will Not Trouble You

Shut Up

The first thing we do when we meet with clients is listen. We try to figure out what their problems are. Then we come back with questions, not solutions. We write these out and put them on the wall. And then we circle the ones that we think are interesting. More often than not, the questions hold the answer.
Wieden + Kennedy

The Science of Spiritual Narcissism

Self-enhancement through spiritual practices can fool some of us into thinking we’re evolving and growing when all we’re growing is our ego. Walking the spiritual path properly is a very subtle process: it is not something to jump into naively. There are numerous sidetracks which lead to a distorted, ego-centered version of spirituality; we can […]

Place in the world

Rather than finding your place in the world. First find yourself, and there will be your place.
Doshin Roshi

Critical Thinking Pt. II

Clarity Could you elaborate further? Could you give me an example? Could you illustrate what you mean? Accuracy How could we check on that? How could we find out if that is true? How could we verify or test that? Precision Could you be more specific? Could you give me more details? Could you be […]

Critical Thinking Pt. I

Who… …benefits from this? …is this harmful to? …profits from my emotion? …makes decisions about this? …is most directly affected? …have you also heard discuss this? …would be the best person to consult? …will be the key people in this? …deserves recognition for this? What… …are the strengths / weaknesses? …is another perspective? …is […]

Everyone’s Judging

Make a difference

Baizuo

Two Huge Lies

Our culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe, say, or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.

Rick Warren

Food for Thought