Fragile Masculinity

Choose Your Path Wisely

To stick with the pack, or leave it? Probably the greatest, most troubling, and pertinent question of our time. Do I join the big corporation, or the small startup? Am I looking to be comfortable, or notorious? Is it the jump I’m afraid of, or the fall? Both wolf and sheep come with their own […]

Preparing to Live vs. Living

I know a lot of people who live in the future. A few in the past. And even fewer in the present. We spend much time thinking about what was and what could have been. And we spend much time projecting into the future and wondering about what may happen. Life unfolds in the present. […]

The Cave

It is by going down into the abyssthat we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble,there lies your treasure. The very cave you are afraid to enterturns out to be the source ofwhat you are looking for.The damned thing in the cavethat was so dreadedhas become the center. You find the jewel,and it draws […]

Comparison

Comparison is the thief of joy. Theodore Roosevelt Be cautious when you’re comparing yourself to others. You’re a singular being, once you’re an adult. You have your own particular, specific problems — financial, intimate, psychological, and otherwise. Those are embedded in the unique broader context of your existence. Your career or job works for […]

When did people start to care what others thought?

It’s social media. There is a constant looking, in life, for approval, and it really jars with me. But I’m a 51-year-old man. Nobody listens to me. Or they will stop listening to me sooner rather than later, so it doesn’t really matter what I think. But I grew up when punk rock was on […]

Want to make a living on Social Media?

Price only matters when nothing else matters

If you fail to distinguish yourself in any meaningful way, your customer will default to price as the final criteria. Barry Davret for Medium Almost every product becomes commoditised at some point. Differentiate yourself. Create a uniqueness to your offer.

The Peaceful Warrior

Better to be a Warrior in a Garden that a Gardener in a War. A young apprentice asked his teacher why, if he was striving to be inwardly calm and at peace, did he need to learn the ways of a warrior. “Would it not be more tranquil and serene to be a gardener and […]

How to conduct an interview

I’m very, very, very careful with my words…

A time for soul searching

I think we have created tools that are ripping apart the social fabric of how society works. The short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops we’ve created are destroying how society works. No civil discourse, no cooperation; misinformation, mistruth. You are being programmed

Same Shit, Different Era.

I like newsletters, you only need 2-3 and you’re set. More than that and it’s just noise. Choose carefully. Hiut Denim’s is great, as is a guy called Josh Spector… not sure how I came to be on his list but this landed the other day and made me smile: Take a breath. The […]

Dustin – Stranger Things

Love this kid. Love this series.

8/10

Everything Is Amazing And Nobody Is Happy.

Life Goals Pt II

Life Goals Pt I

Slacktivism

Dr. Craig Considine, a sociologist at Rice University, has noticed some trends in how people use social media to respond to tragedy. He notes four predictable stages that the average Facebook user goes through surrounding a terror attack: I look forward to the day where this message is no longer relevant or applicable to […]

No Drama = No Attention

TOWIE Made In Chelsea Keeping Up With The Kardashians Geordie Shore Not only would I rather wipe my arse with sandpaper than watch any of the above tripe, they’ve informed a generation that it’s perfectly acceptable to trade any ounce of dignity and self respect for minimum wage. They’re full of drama, false or otherwise, […]

Turn it off.

Enjoy it in real life.

Those status updates

Just think about this next time you’re hovering over the post button. People who post Facebook status updates about their romantic partner are more likely to have low self-esteem, while those who brag about diets, exercise, and accomplishments are typically narcissists, according to new research. Brunel University via Science Daily

Technology is not the demon, it is our social psychology

Ofcom released its Communications Market Report 2016 last week. According to the report, UK digital consumption patterns have reached an all-time high, and trends for more universal access are bullish. Yet rather than celebrating the web for bringing the world’s information to our fingertips, coverage of the report focused on what it called “connectivity creep”: […]

Making time for family

Saw this in Esquire a while back. Joe Biden very clearly explaining that making time for family is important… And then we have these guys… At dinner w our greenskeeper who missed his sister's wedding 2 work (luv loyalty 2 us) "No big deal hopefully she'll have another someday";) — Donald Trump […]

Declinism

There is not more news. The world is not a worse place. There is just a bigger media driven fight for your attention. And a few billion cameras.

Monday 8th August

Don’t live next to a builder People in 4x4s will not move out of your way on single track roads When you stop work, stop. Plug the leaks, they’ll sink you eventually Get up every day before 7am Growing pains – it won’t be comfortable, embrace it Get a dog Walk the dog Live somewhere […]

Is that what God does? He helps?

It’ll blow your mind. Mr Robot. And it’s got Christian Slater from Broken Arrow… many a happy childhood memory there.

9/10

Fuck Society

Friends

I don’t trust people who say they have a lot of friends. It’s a sure sign that they don’t really know anyone. Carlos Ruiz Zafón

The Leftovers

The Leftovers. That soundtrack. Those crazy storylines. Go watch it. 9/10

Nobody wants to read your shit

I read this book a while ago, it’s called Nobody wants to read your shit by Steven Pressfield and it’s brilliant… Then the other day Dave Trott posted an excerpt and it all came back to me… I love this, Steven says it’s the most important lesson he ever learned, and he learned it when […]

Happy Mediums

A lot of advertising has become plagued by clichés, category norms, comfortable territory and accepted ways’ of doing things. Unfortunately for brands who have fallen victim to this, similarity is the road to obscurity (and a huge waste of marketing budget) as they become lost in the crowd Finding happy mediums, familiar territory and compromise’ might keep […]